Below is the group chat with me telling The gays about my not so good experience yesterday afternoon.
Summery: my mum and I were late getting home, my dad was really mad. I said something about how wizards are never late. He hits me, I run away. I run to Sarah's house on the opposite side of Wellesley, a 15 min walk. I stay there for a while, I then go home. We go to the north shore. Drive by dads conservative Christian college, he starts being a homophobic asshole. I get uncomfortable. Help me please.
Your dad was wrong to hit you. Where is his sense of humor?
ReplyDeleteYeah he was. It didn't hurt that much, but still a little. I don't know
Delete*gives ice* For the record, I'm conservative. I think he left his sense of humor at his conservative Christian college.
DeleteEnder-Chan....
Delete"Where is his sense of humor?" Good question!! "I think he left his sense of humor at his conservative Christian college." Good point!! ;)
For the record? I am a church-going, Bible-learned, Sunday School attending {as a kid} Christian, and I ain't no homophobe!! I love, love, love members of the LGBTQ community!! ;-D
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
Ender Chan
Delete*takes ice* thanks. Okay good to know. I agree with that statement.
Raelyn:
That's a good point. I'm a church go-er, and a Sunday school attending AroAce Agender episcopal who also it half Jewish!
Thank you. And we love you back :)
Mighty Max....
DeleteYour welcome!! I meant every single word, Friend!! ;)
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
I'm an AroAce non-denominational attending a Lutheran school. I'm aesthetically attracted to males and females, but I'm more comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship with a guy.
DeleteCool. I'm aestectially attracted to girls, and somewhat Nonbianary pals, so technically poly-aesthetic or Homo-aesthetic. I'm fine being QPP relations with humans of neutral or feminine identification.
DeleteEnder-Chan....
Delete"I'm an AroAce non-denominational attending a Lutheran school. I'm aesthetically attracted to males and females, but I'm more comfortable with the idea of being in a relationship with a guy." That is cool, Friend!! ;)
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
Cool!
DeleteMighty Max....
ReplyDelete"My mum and I were late getting home, my dad was really mad. I said something about how wizards are never late. He hits me, I run away." Wait. What?! Your Dad hit you?! His own child?! Now, I am not making excuses for him, but.... Was your Dad drinking or drunk when he hit you? Oh, Friend.... I imagine that he hurt you physically.... But mostly emotionally. Now, I am typing this and trying so hard to keep a nonjudgmental, wide-open mind, but.... Did your Dad momentarily loose his head?! You were just late and cracking a joke, for Pete's sake!! Now, I am deploying my inner Sherlock Holmes, who feels and sees everything.... Did your Dad hit you because you're not straight? Because you're queer? Because you're not at all who he--in his controlling way--wants as his daughter? :-(
You are Beautifully Unique.... You're fearfully and wonderfully made.... You are my Kindred Spirit, Friend!! ;-D
Hugs and prayers.... That is all I can do.... Send you virtual hugs and literal prayers!! ;)
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
Yes he hit me, on the arm. Not too hard, but that's never happened before. So I ran. No my dad never drinks,smokes, any of that. Your right, it mostly hurt emotionally, I thought about just staying at Sarah's and I'm actually there now, I'm sleeping there tonight, just in case. I'm pretty sure he momentarily lost it. Go Sherlock! I'm not sure, maybe. I'm not really out though, I've told them time and time again, I'm Ace, haven't said anything about Aro or NB, or that Sarah's actually my Queer Platonic Gal Pal. Probably because I'm not who he wants. He wants the feminine straight cis perfect daughter. When he actually has a masculine/neutral queer child. Who has a pixie cut, dresses androgynesly, hangs out with all the gays, has glasses and hearing aids, and is far far far from cishet. Thank you raelyn
DeleteMighty Max....
Delete"Yes he hit me, on the arm. Not too hard, but that's never happened before." Whew!! I am glad that hitting you is not "normal" behavior for your Dad!! What a relief!! ;)
"No my dad never drinks, smokes, any of that." Good!! That was just a Sherlock Holmes hunch.... But he is not always right.... It keeps him humble!! Ha!! In this case, that is a good thing!! ;-D
"Your right, it mostly hurt emotionally." My Dad--or Mom--has never, ever hit me, but I somehow understand, anyway!! Bruce Springsteen's Dad was an alcoholic who regularly abused his only son. Physically? I do not know. Verbally? Yes. Emotionally? Listen to "Adam Raised A Cain" and you will feel it. {Actually, don't. "Adam Raised A Cain" stirs my emotions.... Gives me goose bumps.... Breaks my heart into a billion pieces....} :'-(
"I'm pretty sure he momentarily lost it." All excuses set aside? Everybody momentarily loose it from time to time.... Try your very best--even though it is hard--to forgive your Dad. ;)
"I'm not sure, maybe. I'm not really out though, I've told them time and time again, I'm Ace, haven't said anything about Aro or NB, or that Sarah's actually my Queer Platonic Gal Pal." I cannot help but wonder.... If your Dad {and Mum} know far more about who you are then you're giving him/her credit for? They are parents, after all.... ;-D
You're welcome!! I meant every single word, Friend!! ;)
Hugs and prayers!! ;)
Yeah it is a relief. At least my situation is better than charlottes, her dads like mine, but more violent. It is a good thing! I'm glad they never have and hope they never do! Poor Bruce. I won't I can just watch The Red Wedding and my heart is gone. I'll try, it's just...so hard. Maybe they do, maybe they don't. I'm going to say don't, as I've only told them limited things about Sarah, and they don't know what Agender or Nonbianary is, same with Aromantic and Asexual. No clue.
DeleteMighty Max....
Delete"At least my situation is better than charlottes, her dads like mine, but more violent." That is sad!! I will pray for Charlotte, for her parents, for her situation. :-(
"I'll try, it's just...so hard." I know, I know.... Forgiveness can be an ongoing process sometimes. ;)
"Maybe they do, maybe they don't. I'm going to say don't, as I've only told them limited things about Sarah, and they don't know what Agender or Nonbianary is, same with Aromantic and Asexual. No clue." I educated myself a long time ago on what lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender meant. I read about it in our local newspaper/Online. I do, after all, have dear, dear friends {S and P} who are a lesbian couple!! But I did not know diddlysquat about what agender, nonbianary, aromantic and asexual meant until I "met" you, Friend!! I have--and I am--learning!! You are educating me!! For I am merely a student!! The only obvious difference between me and your Dad? I am not a homophobe!! I possess an incredibly wide-open mind, I try real hard to be nonjudgmental and I love everyone!! It is not that hard!! Hugs and prayers!! ;-D
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
PS. Refresh my memory. Is Charlotte, by any chance, a member of the LGBTQ community? ;)
Please do. Forgiveness can be really hard, but it's good. Good for you! And I'm happy to educate you further! You've mentioned S and P before! Yayy for not homophobes! Yayy for you! Yes Charlotte is LGBTQ+ she's Pan ro, and is inbetween Ace and Demi
DeleteMighty Max....
DeleteYes, forgiveness can be hard, but it is very important!! ;)
"Yes Charlotte is LGBTQ+ she's Pan ro, and is inbetween Ace and Demi." Thanks!! Now I have further information to pray for Charlotte about!! ;-D
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
Your welcome!
DeleteI'm so sorry Max! :( I'm Christian and I have lots of LGBT friends. Lots of people unfortunately use religion to back up their message instead of sharing the true message of the religion. Also- women's colleges are wonderful!!! I may be biased because I attend one. Unfortunately your parents' attitudes towards them are not uncommon. For some reason a lot of micro aggressions towards those who attend women's college involve sexuality. I don't know why.
ReplyDeleteThanks, it wasn't fun. Especially because j couldn't say ANYTHING! I'm half and half, but raised mostly Christian (Episcopalian) and a good portion of my friends are LBGTQIA+ :) good for you, friends are good. That is true they do. A quote from Charlotte "Jesus had guy friends, so I can have girlfriends." I don't understand what would bring people to do that though, why can't they just be like "oh, okay. Great for you." Probably unrealistic expectations, but you can hope.
DeleteThey sound great, I think I might like to go to one, we passed a few on my brothers college hunting trip, didn't look extensively through any, but passed through at least. And I still have a lot of time to think about it. Haha, maybe! I don't know why either, huh, strange
Mighty Max and Kathryn....
DeleteIf Jesus Himself met any members of the LGBTQ community, would He turn them away? Use offensive, homophobic language? Call them sinners? No, no and no!! If Jesus Himself met any members of the LGBTQ community, would He minister to them? Spread His unconditional love? Yes and yes!! By the way? We are ALL sinners--myself included--being straight does not make someone exempt!! Why can't these self-righteous religious people--many of which, I have observed, are Christians--come off their high horses? Whatever happened to WWJD? You know.... What Would Jesus Do? ;)
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
No he would not! No no no! Yes yes and yes! I agree completely!!!
DeleteMighty Max....
DeleteI am so glad you agree with this reply, these thoughts/feelings/emotions, Friend!! I wholeheartedly meant it!! But I was also kind of ranting.... ;)
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn
Yep. Eh we all deserve the opertunity to rant sometimes
DeleteMighty Max....
Delete"We all deserve the opertunity to rant sometimes." I absolutely agree!! Thanks, Friend!! ;)
"Stay hard, stay hungry, stay alive", Raelyn